Tuesday morning I woke up around 10am. Again in blissful silence with none of the usual London racket. I walked downstairs to find neatly wrapped presents awaiting me. This was an unexpected surprise. B had ordered a Mindfold and some Neal’s Yard moisturiser from my Amazon Wish List. Alongside a magnificent breakfast sandwich of square sausage, bacon and egg, it was a delightful start to our second day.
I woke up warm and cosy in a soft white bed and rolled around luxuriously. Sunlight was streaming in, birds chirping, sheep bleating, and wind swishing.
I’ve just spent 4 intense days in a remote cottage in Scotland. I was there with a client to explore how far we can push the dynamics of Dominance and submission together. As this is the first time I’ve done this I wanted to document it and, as you’re a bunch of nosey buggers, I suspected you’d like to read that documentation. Over the next few days I’ll be sharing a day-by-day account in a series of blog posts.
It’s the nature of what I do that I get to know people very intimately and deeply for short chunks of time, then they go off and live the rest of their lives. Sometimes I only meet a person once, and sometimes we have long relationships over years. Inevitably all journeys must come to an end, no matter how short or how long. Often people disappear for whatever reason; work stresses, financial, family, health, or simply that they have got what they needed. I accept and expect this, but I do find myself thinking about people and how they are doing, what happened to them, why they decided that this stage was over, and in most cases I’ll never know.
I’m always curious what goes through peoples heads when they come and visit me, so I was delighted when a lovely man I sessioned with recently emailed me his thoughts. He was frustrated that he could not speak about the session to anyone, so framed his thoughts as a conversation at the pub. With kind permission I am publishing it here. I thought his view on the dynamics of a session were spot on, and hearing about his experience might be helpful if you’re feeling a bit nervous about your first time. I’m very pleased to share this, I try to make the words on my website as true a reflection of who I am and what I do as possible, but someone else’s view is invaluable. [Read more…] about What’s a BDSM session like?