Last week I had the massive honour of winning the award of Sex Worker of the Year from the Sexual Freedom Awards! I was up against some fabulous other finalists, you can check out the full list here.
The Sexual Freedom Awards promotes pioneers and celebrates excellence in the field of sexuality. They have just celebrated their 25th year of running, with all of the proceeds of the event going to the Outsiders Trust, a charity that runs services for socially and physically disabled people.
The evening was a delight. In the prestigious Clapham Grand the stage was taken up by all kinds of telented performers displaying a wealth of sex-positive talent. Inbetween these incredible feast for the eyes the details of each award nominee was read out, then the award presented and accepted.
It was an honour to be in a room with so many incredible people form all areas of the sex industry, from strippers to activists, publicists to somatic sexologists, writers to event promoters. And of course all of the people who appreciate and want to celebrate these awesome pioneers of sexual freedom.
I’ve known of the Sexual Freedom Awards for a long time, and have coveted the amazing shiny winged penis that is the award, but never expected to actually win one. It really meant a lot to me. I have worked in the sex industry for over 10 years in various roles, most prominently as a Dominatrix and dungeon owner. Throughout all that time I have tried to always hold myself to a high ethical standard, behave with integrity and honesty (towards myself and others), and to make people feel seen and accepted, regardless of their gender or their kinks. This has not always been easy, and it is amazing to feel like my hard work has been seen and acknowledged.
As meaningful as the award has been, so has the flood of support I’ve had around it. My tweet announcing I had won Sex Worker of the Year has recieved more than double the likes of anything I have ever posted, and a stream of positive and affirming comments. You can see the Tweet and comments by following the link below.
Whilst it is an amazing honour and privilege to win this award, I want to take a moment to acknowledge how much of a privilege it really is that I can be an ‘out’ sex worker. There are countless others doing equally or more valuable work who are not able to be so open about it. This awards ceremony is a lovely step towards celebrating sexual freedom, but we still have a long long way to go and a lot of work to do to remove stigma and prejudice.
The awards work by considering people who have been nominated by members of the public, so keep an eye on the website for next years nominations to open so that you can put forward the sex worker you feel most deserves this incredible honour.