I want to meet you but I don’t know what I like.
It’s important for me to have a clear idea of your desires before we meet. I offer a wide range of services and have unconventional preferences, ‘general domination’ can have a lot of meanings to different people. Unclear communication leads to frustration and disappointment on both sides.
I know it can be overwhelming at first, there are so many exciting kinky things to try. Check out my blog post on variety with some helpful questions, and my sessions page for some ideas and see if any of these appeal as a starting point. I have a lot of experience in taking your vague ideas and shaping them into delicious encounters, but I need something from you to start with.
Where do you hold BDSM sessions?
I offer dungeon sessions at my venue in North London, The Peacock Parlour, less than 10 minutes’ walk from Caledonian Road station.
Dungeon equipment includes a 2.5m high scaffold frame, bed, cage, bondage chair, MMA mats, bondage table, stocks, kneeling bench, gynae chair. Plus all of the floggers, canes, e-stim attachments, bondage bits, CBT toys, rope, candles and all the other toys we could ever need.
Alternatively I love visiting luxury hotels – particularly those with a bathtub!
How much does a BDSM session in London cost?
How do I pay? What’s your cancellation policy?
Bank transfer to my discreet business account is the best way to send payment. Although a 50% deposit and 50% cash in an envelope is fine.
You are required to pay 50% of the total agreed fee in advance to confirm bookings, although many choose to just pay in the full amount. Deposits are non-refundable. If you cancel with more than 72 hours’ notice it can be transferred to another date within one month. Cancellations 24-72 hours before a booking forfeit the deposit and a new deposit will be taken to rebook. Bookings cancelled within 24 hours incur 100% of the agreed fee.
If you cannot manage a bank transfer other means may be arranged. Cash drop-off incurs additional ‘meet and greet’ fee of £50.
For social time the full amount must be paid in advance. This is non-refundable, but can be transferred with reasonable notice and good communication.
Can I see you today/tomorrow?
*Currently absolutely no due to COVID*
I sometimes offer same day or next day session, usually if there’s been a cancellation. I always advertise these on Twitter so go check there. Last minute bookings still require a deposit and whatever screening I deem necessary so if we’ve not met before it’ll still take a few hours.
If you would like a last minute booking and I have not advertised on Twitter this means I already have plans. I can sometimes move these around, but I charge an additional £100 per session for my inconvenience.
How do you like to be contacted? Can I phone you?
I do not take bookings over the phone. Introductions are to be made over email, this way I can take my time to read between the lines of what you’ve written to get to what you actually want. Ideally this happens after you’ve thoroughly read my site so you know what I do and do not offer, and after reading my contact page so you know what information I need.
How long should we meet for?
I prefer relaxed bookings of 3 hours or longer so we can get to know each other as people before diving straight into the debauchery. I’m happy to advise when I know what you want to try. Note that the booking is for the time agreed, not longer. So if for example, you know you would like to chat for a long time make sure to factor this into your requested booking time.
I do not offer bookings of 1 hour – this isn’t long enough for me to get to know you and enjoy playing together.
After our first meeting anything from 2 hour to overnight is normal, or even mini-breaks abroad or in the UK if we’re feeling adventurous.
When should I arrive?
Arrive at the time we’ve agreed to meet at, not earlier. There’s no waiting room. More details on timeliness can be found in this blog post: On Timing
Should I buy you a gift?
I do love gifts and I will always remember you when I wear/use/drink/eat it. Here are some ideas… Gifts
Can you wear heels (corset/latex/PVC …)?
Probably not. I’m not comfortable in them and find being uncomfortable distracts me from focusing on our play. If it is very important to you and you understand you will be unlikely to be seeing me at my best, I may wear it as an exception (but note my collection of the above is extremely limited so if there is a specific piece you want you will likely need to provide it). My absolute favourite outfit is black jeans or shiny legging, a vest or t-shirt and a pair of leather boots. Unless you request otherwise, this is most likely what I’ll wear when we meet.
I also like leather, fur, comfortable sexy black clothes, silk kimonos. If you have a preference you can ask me to wear something specific, if I own it and it fits with the mood I will. You’re also welcome to buy me items of clothing to wear (check first!)
Do you do strap-on or anal play?
As a general rule no, I don’t. I will occasionally offer this to experienced bottoms who are very familiar with exactly how to douche thoroughly. I will require references from other dommes you’ve played with before agreeing to this. Basically I do not want to have to deal with your literal shit.
Can I use nitrous oxide/poppers/other intoxicants?
No, I do not enjoy the use of intoxicants in sessions.
Can I be your personal slave? Can you use me for filming/photo shoots/ forced bi sessions?
Possibly, if you approach me with a well thought through email explaining clearly and concisely what you can offer me. What are your skills, previous experiences, references. Note these are service positions and are intended to serve me, not as a way for you to get a free session. More details can be found on my blog post on Becoming a Personal sub
Why do you call yourself ‘Sir’?
I call myself ‘Sir Claire’ because it was the most appealing honorific to me. As you’ll see from my images, I’m not particularly femme and ‘Goddess’, ‘Miss’, ‘Madame’, ‘Lady’, ‘Princess’ … just don’t sit right; they sound like some glamorous woman I have no aspirations to be. Occasionally ‘Mistress’ is okay. I know some people have real issues with ‘Sir’ because of previous life experiences, so in these situations ‘Mistress’ is acceptable, but ‘Sir’ or ‘Sir Claire’ will always make me happy.
Another benefit from this is that it shows someone is really engaged with me. If a sub is just blurting out ‘Yes, Mistress. Oh, Mistress’ I could be any Domme they’ve served. You need to be present with me to remember ‘Sir’.
Can we have sex? Can I worship your pussy?
Generally no to the sex. I do occasionally enjoy more standard vanilla sexual activities, these are charged from £500 per hour and only available after thorough screening.
There are occasional circumstances where I allow pussy worship in a domination session. If you have been very well behaved, requested politely, I feel it fits with our dynamic, and if I’m in the mood, just maybe. Probably not, but maybe.