I want to meet you but I don’t know what I like.
It’s important for me to have a clear idea of your desires before we meet. I offer a wide range of services and have unconventional preferences, ‘general domination’ can have a lot of meanings to different people. Unclear communication leads to frustration and disappointment on both sides.
I know it can be overwhelming at first, there are so many exciting kinky things to try. Check out my blog post on variety with some helpful questions, and my sessions page for some ideas and see if any of these appeal as a starting point. I have a lot of experience in taking your vague ideas and shaping them into delicious encounters, but I need something from you to start with.
Where do you hold BDSM sessions?
I offer dungeon sessions at my venue in North London, The Peacock Parlour, less than 10 minutes’ walk from Caledonian Road station.
Dungeon equipment includes a 2.5m high scaffold frame, bed, cage, bondage chair, MMA mats, bondage table, stocks, kneeling bench, gynae chair. Plus all of the floggers, canes, e-stim attachments, bondage bits, CBT toys, rope and other toys we could ever need.
The Peacock Parlour is popular with other Mistresses these days and often is booked in advance. If you would prefer not to wait I can travel to another London dungeon (Innana is my favourite), the cost of rental will be added to my fee.
Alternatively I love visiting luxury hotels – particularly those with a bathtub! I offer a 20% discount for sessions at luxury hotels if the room is booked in my name so I can enjoy it before and after our time together. Email to discuss with me before booking the room.
How much does a BDSM session in London cost?
How do I pay? What’s your cancellation policy?
A bank transfer to my discreet business account is the easiest way to send payment.
You are required to pay 50% of the total agreed fee in advance to confirm bookings, although many choose to just pay in the full amount. The remaining 50% can be paid by bank transfer either on the day we meet, or in cash in an envelope when you arrive.
Deposits are non-refundable. If you cancel with more than 72 hours’ notice it can be transferred to another date within one month. Cancellations 24-72 hours before a booking forfeit the deposit and a new deposit will be taken to rebook. Bookings cancelled within 24 hours incur 100% of the agreed fee.
If you cannot manage a bank transfer other means may be arranged. Cash drop-off incurs additional ‘meet and greet’ fee of £50.
For social time the full amount must be paid in advance. This is non-refundable, but can be transferred with reasonable notice and good communication.
How far in advance should I book? Can I see you today?
- Dedicated long term subs/clients. You’ll always get first refusal, and if your time is limited, I will reorganise my schedule for you
- Pleasant company and low-energy. If we’ve met before and your interests are extremely low energy – for example people who like to be ignored, foot fetishists or service subs who are genuinely serving and not looking for attention. I can sometimes make a space for these sessions last minute
- Generous, polite and conscientious. If you’ve done your research thoroughly, contact me politely and offer double my usual rate I will (if possible) reorganise my schedule to fit you in.
How do you like to be contacted? Can I phone you?
I do not take bookings over the phone. Introductions are to be made over email, this way I can take my time to read between the lines of what you’ve written to get to what you actually want. Ideally this happens after you’ve thoroughly read my site so you know what I do and do not offer, and after reading my contact page so you know what information I need.
How long should we meet for?
This depends on your interests, but in general I prefer relaxed bookings of 3 hours or longer so we can get to know each other as people before diving straight into the debauchery. I’m happy to advise when I know what you want to try. Note that the booking is for the time agreed, not longer. So if for example, you know you would like to chat for a long time make sure to factor this into your requested booking time.
After our first meeting anything from 2 hour to overnight is normal, or even mini-breaks abroad or in the UK if we’re feeling adventurous.
When should I arrive?
Arrive at the time we’ve agreed to meet at, not earlier. There’s no waiting room. More details on timeliness can be found in this blog post: On Timing
Should I buy you a gift?
I do love gifts and I will always remember you when I wear/use/drink/eat it. Here are some ideas… Gifts
Can you wear heels (corset/latex/PVC …)?
I usually prefer to session in more casual clothes so that I can move freely. If a particular fabric or garment is important to your enjoyment of a session you are welcome to ask, but understand that my collection of the above is extremely limited. If there is a specific piece you want to see me in you will likely need to provide it.
My absolute favourite outfit is black jeans or shiny legging, a vest, t-shirt or sheer shirt and a pair of leather boots. Unless you request otherwise, this is most likely what I’ll wear when we meet.
I also like leather, fur, comfortable sexy black clothes, silk kimonos. If you have a preference you can ask me to wear something specific, if I own it and it fits with the mood I will. You’re also welcome to buy me items of clothing to wear (check first!)
Do you do strap-on or anal play?
As a general rule no, I don’t. I will occasionally offer this to experienced bottoms who are very familiar with exactly how to douche thoroughly. I will require references from other Dommes you’ve played with before agreeing to this. Basically I do not want to have to deal with your literal shit.
Can I use nitrous oxide/poppers/other intoxicants?
No, I do not enjoy the use of intoxicants in sessions.
Can I be your personal slave? Can you use me for filming/photo shoots/ forced bi sessions?
Possibly, if you approach me with a well thought through email explaining clearly and concisely what you can offer me. What are your skills, previous experiences, references. Note these are service positions and are intended to serve me, not as a way for you to get a free session. More details can be found on my blog post on Becoming a Personal sub
Why do you call yourself ‘Sir’?
I call myself ‘Sir Claire’ because it was the most appealing honorific to me. As you’ll see from my images, I’m not particularly femme and ‘Goddess’, ‘Miss’, ‘Madame’, ‘Lady’, ‘Princess’ … just don’t sit right; they sound like some glamorous woman I have no aspirations to be. Occasionally ‘Mistress’ is okay. I know some people have real issues with ‘Sir’ because of previous life experiences, so in these situations ‘Mistress’ is acceptable, but ‘Sir’ or ‘Sir Claire’ will always make me happy.
Another benefit from this is that it shows someone is really engaged with me. If a sub is just blurting out ‘Yes, Mistress. Oh, Mistress’ I could be anybody they’ve served. You need to be present with me to remember ‘Sir’.
Can we have PIV (penis in vagina) sex? Can I worship your pussy?
PIV sex is not part of a standard Domination session. Fucking as part of BDSM play is a different kind of intimacy which I deeply enjoy, but it doesn’t come cheaply or easily; my rates are £500 per hour. If you are interested please do enquire, but understand there will be additional screening, and unless your manners are exemplary and you’ve read and digested all of the information on my website, the answer will be no.
There are occasional circumstances where I allow pussy worship in a domination session. If you have been very well behaved, requested politely, I feel it fits with our dynamic, and if I’m in the mood, just maybe. Probably not, but maybe.