Here’s a lovely review written for me recently by JP (@forthecane on twitter) of a delightful CP session with a more sensual twist. Enjoy…
A submissive of mine asked for a brutal beatdown with toys, pushing things further than ever, something he would never forget. This is what happened…
The thing I love most about being a pro-domme is the variety; every day, every session is different. Media is awash with stereotypes of the Dominatrix in her leather and latex with whips and sharp tongues, but this narrow image misses out on the vast creativity and diversity BDSM encompasses. I meet so many interesting people doing this work, each with their own very individual desires, fetishes, curiosities. Every session I do is completely different, crafted through open communication and negotiation.
I’ve been asked this question a lot recently, so here’s a write up of the most recent session. It goes without saying that every one is different, I have different dynamics with everybody and my mood is different each time. This little morsel should feed your curiosity and imagination, at least for a little while.
It can be tricky putting your desires into words. Even for experienced players who know all the names of all the tools and know what they are looking for it can still be hard to convey the mood, the details, the things that get you into the right headspace. If you’re new and not even sure yourself what exactly you want asking can feel impossible. With a BA (Hons) in English Literature I’m pretty good at reading between the lines and figuring out what a person really wants and why, but words will always be a limited mode of communication.
I found an excellent article online today by Eve Minax that outlines 10 ways to be a great bottom. Her opinions here are very much in line with mine and I try to encourage people I meet with to take responsibility for the things she mentioned, particularly knowing what you want and don’t want, taking care of your own limits and communicating openly and honestly. I highly recommend anyone who is interested in bottoming (and even people who’ve been doing it for a while) gives this a read, the more of these traits you can embody the more satisfying playing often is for both of us.
I was asked to write an article recently about how being in pain in a BDSM context can actually make the receiver feel more powerful, here it is, I’d love to hear any thoughts on this or experiences you’ve had.
Singletails are a pretty scary thing for a lot of people, so I thought you might appreciate reading this feedback from a lovely gentleman who experienced it for the first time a few days ago.